I’m participating in the Kindness Challenge started by Niki of The Richness of A Simple Life. I’m reflecting on Week One: Self Kindness.
At first I thought this would be super easy, no problem. I’m always kind to myself. Well, most of the time. I consider myself a very positive person. I’m grateful for the wonderful life I have and I make a point to notice the small blessings. I often tell people how important it is for me to do something nice for myself every single day. It might be taking a walk, making time to read a book, getting an iced blended, or just putting my feet up for fifteen minutes and doing nothing. I incorporate many of the exercises Niki suggests, on a daily basis:
- Think about something you’re grateful for
- Tell yourself something that you love about yourself
- Read an inspirational quote first thing in the morning
- Wake up and think about 10 beautiful things in your life
- Do something nice for yourself
- Dedicate some time to yourself
- Give yourself a break
- Think of 5 good things for every negative thought
- Come up with your own self-kindness exercise
However… this past week I didn’t feel kind to myself. I felt negative, agitated, and anxious. This is not like me. I couldn’t shake it. I kept thinking, “But I’m supposed to be kind to myself!” I really didn’t know what was wrong. Maybe I can blame it on hormones. I’m not sure.
I was extra conscious of the pessimistic way I was thinking, because of this challenge. By late in the week, I thought, “Okay, what is bothering me? What can I do to improve this?”
I knew I needed to make some medical (preventive) appointments and tests and didn’t want to. I never want to go to the doctor. But I called and made the appointments. I felt better when I wrote them in the calendar.
My car needed servicing but I didn’t want to take time to bring it in. I called and made an appointment (my car is being worked on as I write this).
I was angry with myself for not putting effort into my diet and exercise regime. Eating too much and not exercising enough. I’m not overweight, but I just don’t feel my best when I let diet and exercise go. To remedy this? I went out for long walks and was mindful of what was going into my mouth.
I felt bad I hadn’t kept up with friends. So I called one of them, who is going through a difficult time. We’re going out to dinner this week.
What I realize is that self kindness isn’t only doing luxurious things for myself. (Although I did get my nails done with Talee). It’s about being in touch with my emotions and feelings, and knowing how to help myself when things aren’t going well. I feel much better when I’m proactive. My motto is “Just Do It.”
For me, part of self kindness is taking the initiative to get things done. I have to remind myself to take small steps toward reaching my goals. Otherwise I get overwhelmed. But I must start somewhere. Starting is the hardest part.
Now I’m going to practice some self kindness and go make a cup of tea and read a book 🙂
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