The line reached the door. My stomach grumbled as I slowly made my way up to order lunch. I was at one of my favorite fast-casual dining places. Employees in the kitchen were in a frenzy, rushing to grill meat, make guacamole, and chop onions and peppers. The workers moved quickly and systematically, trying their best to get the orders right. I finally reached the front.
“How can I help you?”
“I’ll have a burrito please. Brown rice, black beans, chicken.” I moved down the line, where another worker scooped guacamole, plopped on salsa, and sprinkled on cheese and lettuce. He expertly wrapped the over-stuffed burrito, taking care so it wouldn’t burst open.
The cashier asked if I’d like anything else. “Chips and a drink.” I made some small talk and asked how her day was going.
“Fine, thanks.” She smiled.
I smiled back.
What she said next took me by complete surprise. “I love when you come through the line. You calm me down. You really do, you make me feel calm.”
Really? I was touched, and it felt great that in that brief moment, I helped her to feel more relaxed. I wasn’t sure if it was what I said, how I said it, or my general demeanor.
When I saw my husband, who had been waiting at a table, I mentioned the cashier’s comment. I told him I couldn’t believe it. “You have that effect on people,” he said. Like with our girls, when they’re upset, you help them feel better by talking in a soft voice, and telling them to take it one problem at a time.”
I’d never thought about it like that before, it’s just how I usually react. Especially if I know the other person is agitated. I figure if I’m calmer, they will be too. Of course I don’t always do this. Or I might appear calm on the outside, but on the inside, I’m anxious, nervous, or angry.
This experience made me reflect on The Kindness Challenge, hosted by Niki of The Richness of a Simple Life. I’m on Week Four, in which the focus is to be kind. Niki suggests activities to incorporate into daily life. These are the ones I focused on:
- Make eye contact and greet people around you
- Hold the door for the person entering behind you
- Compliment 5 people
- Say “please” and “thank you” often
- Address a stranger by their name (server, barista, cashier, janitor, etc.)
- Be a listening ear for someone, listening in earnest and not just to reply
I’ve found that these small gestures not only make the other person feel good, it makes me feel good too. A smile, a comment or compliment, can open up a conversation we never would’ve had.
I’m glad I made a positive impact on the cashier at the restaurant. She may not realize it, but in return, she made my day happier.
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You sound like a sweet person Jenny. Nice story. Thanks for sharing!
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Thank you Jess! 🙂
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I’m glad she said something. I wonder how many times she had thought that before mentioning it to you.
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Thanks, I’m glad she said something too. That’s one reason I often compliment people.. if someone is wearing a pretty shirt, or their hair looks nice, etc., I like to tell them that. Because I think of how many people think it, but don’t say it. And it’s nice for the person to know 🙂
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In return for the kindness you exuded, you discovered something you’ve always done but haven’t taken notice. Nice!
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Yes! Thank you for putting it like that, I appreciate it 🙂
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What a wonderful thing to have a calming effect on others, Jenny. Kindness is really very simple, doesn’t take a lot of time and makes a world of difference. Thanks for sharing this!
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That’s right. It doesn’t take a whole lot of time and effort to be kind. But it can make a difference. Thank you Eliza!
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Those kind small gestures mean a lot to the recipients …at times give them more joy than anything else , not only it leads to our own contentment within but also speaks a lot abt the person we are! Awesome Jenny! Blessings
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Oh, thank you so very much! I appreciate your insight and kind words. Take care 🙂
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What a gift you have, to be such a calming influence, and what a gift you were given, to be made aware of it!
I think most of time when we worry what others think of us, it’s coming from our egotism. Instead, we should look at it from their side – how is our attitude or behavior affecting them?
Wow – you’ve given me a lot to think about! Thank you!
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Hi C.J.! Yes, I’m really glad she told me, because honestly, I had no idea I made that impact on her. My mouth probably dropped open when she said it, because that never went through my mind. And you’re so right… Our actions and attitude definitely affects others. But a lot of the time, I’m not focused on that, or thinking of it. And maybe it’s good to be more aware. Thanks for your nice comment!
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I believe you can tell a lot about a person based on how the treat a cashier at a grocery store. Keep doing what you are doing. It really makes a difference in their day,
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That’s so true about the grocery store! Thanks so much Bradley 🙂
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Jenny, I love this story! There are so many reasons why I love it. I think the biggest reason is your surprise and humility at receiving such a compliment. It’s an incredible testament to your character. It’s also another example of the big impact even the smallest and most insignificant gestures can have in the lives of other people (for positive or negative). I love how you sent ripples of kindness to the cashier, and she was able to send ripples of kindness back to you by sharing how she felt, and the ripples are continuing to spread with everyone who reads this post. Thank you for the little reminder to be kind and also the little reminder that I do make a difference, even if I don’t recognize it. Like you sometimes feel, I am often anxious, distressed, or even angry and frustrated on the inside. Even in my brokenness, I can spread light for others just by taking a deep breath and sharing a smile.
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Lulu, what you wrote is really beautiful! I always appreciate your insight, and often I look at things deeper or think of them in a different way, because of what you write. I love how you relate it to ripples of kindness. So true. And, yes, even when we feel broken, we can still spread light and happiness to others. Just like you did just now for me 🙂 Thank you again, Lulu!
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Lovely 🙂 Adding kindness is definitely something I aim for when I go out, and today was a success. Amazingly, I DID receive kindness today, and I also witnessed it happening to others.
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Hi Joey, that’s great you’re mindful of kindness, of giving it, receiving it, and seeing it happen to others. Sounds like a great day! 🙂
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It was until the sky fell out. NOT my favorite to drive in! lol But I bet the garden liked it 🙂 Well, maybe not the hail…I dunno, it was still a pretty good outing!
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Wow! I really don’t like driving in rain either, and sounds like you had a huge downpour! Hard to imagine that and the hail, because here it’s warm and sunny 🙂
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Some people simply exude kindness, it is in their nature!! The cashier must have sensed that in you! Lovely post 🙂
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Aw, you’re so sweet Marisa! Thank you so much, I appreciate that! 🙂
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You are most welcome 🙂
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Wonderful! You are a light of peace on those around you! That is my goal too. Keep up the good work!!
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Thank you so much for those nice words! 😊🌷
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Another great story. I really love your blog. You help put “kind” back into this world! 🙂
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Hi Jessica! Wow, thank you so much for that! Your nice words mean a lot to me 😊💕
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You’re welcome. What I love about this post is that sometimes it’s easy to dismiss things in ourselves that others so clearly see. What a great reminder and lesson. 🙂
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You’re so right! It is easy to dismiss those things, just not notice them, until someone points them out. I hadn’t thought of it like that before, so thanks!
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It is the small gestures that make the most difference in peoples’s lives. Im so glad she said that to you. Great post…
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Yes, the small things are so important! Thanks so much! 🙂
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Reblogged this on Dream Big, Dream Often and commented:
More great advice from Peace From Panic!
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That’s amazing Jenny! I can’t imagine how wonderful that must have felt! Here you were being yourself and you walk away with such lovely feedback and a great feeling! I love the way kindness brightens the day of everyone it touches! Thank you so much for participating in the challenge and sharing this story ❤
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Thanks Niki! It did make me feel great 🙂 And yes, it’s wonderful how kindness has a ripple effect! I’m enjoying participating in the challenge 🙂 (even though I’m a bit behind)
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No worries! People are in all different phases of the challenge 🙂
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Being “the calm” for people is a very hard task. It is amazing you accomplish it without thought! 🙂
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Thanks so much for the nice words, Jason! I appreciate that 🙂
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what a compliment! xx
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I was so touched 😊
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yes that is a lovely thing to give off to people! very special!
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Thank you so much Lynn! 💕
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most welcome
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it is true we all need that small reward whether we like to admit it or not, we are hard wired in that regard. And energy and the ripples they create are positive other rewards maybe like a domino effect but certainly they have a way of keeping us buoyant. Thank you for following me, as you see we all have journeys to make, some are harder than for others but generally people around our day to day can certainly help with that, and hopefully never drain all your new found sense off wellbeing accrued each time.
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Thank you Anita. I appreciate your nice comment and insight. We are all on different journeys, and it’s wonderful to have the support and encouragement of others. Take care!
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It always feels good to hear such kind words from another, especially when she was probably really stressed out because they were really busy and not everyone is as kind as you are. Keep being you. You seem to have and effect on people with your words, including myself. Thank you.
I, also, know exactly, the place you were at! One of my favorites. I can’t really eat that anymore, but I do try small amounts sometimes because, well, it’s one of my favorite places. Burrito: chicken, pinto beans, rice, cheese, and hot sauce. I can’t have lettuce or things with seeds. Sometimes, I get the burrito bowl!! Love that place.
Keep doing what you do. You sound like an amazing soul. Take care.
Peace out! 🙂
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Thanks! You also sound amazing! And mmmmm… I’d love a burrito right now 😊☀️ Take care
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I’m kinda thinking a burrito from there sounds pretty good, right about now. 🙂
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Love the story…..its nice to help make others peoples day….I always feel better knowing I left someone smiling….have a great day….kat
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Hope you have a great day too!
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I wish you are wonderful day
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You too!
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It made me feel better just reading your story. Eye contact and active listening are definite connectors.
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Agreed. Thanks for your kind words!
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Reading the entire story via just your words gave a sneak peek what the person must have felt!Hope you have a wonderful weekend ahead!I am so glad to have read the post.You are fabulous!!
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Thank you, you’re so kind! 🙂 I appreciate you visiting here and commenting. Hope you have a great weekend too!
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