Free to Be Me

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I wouldn’t call myself a perfectionist. I used to though. It really bothered me if everything wasn’t just right. I’d feel anxious if the house wasn’t clean, the girls’ toys weren’t put away,Β  or dirty dishes were left in the sink. I’d be hard on myself if I didn’t cook amazing meals every night or if I didn’t exercise enough that week.

I thought I had to be the perfect mom, wife, daughter, friend, cook, gardener, and housekeeper — all the time. It was exhausting. I wasted a lot of energy striving for unrealistic goals and self-imposed high expectations.

I’ve learned to let go. To be gentle and not criticize myself when things don’t go the way I planned. Give myself a break when I don’t accomplish what I set out to do that day. Let myself indulge on deliciously rich foods. Say no when my schedule is too hectic.

No one is perfect. It’s okay to make mistakes. In fact, it’s good to, that’s how we learn. It’s fine to admit we don’t have it all together. Because really, who does?

If we can forget about being flawless, we can be who we are instead of pretending to be perfect. What a freeing concept.

My sister recently told me, “Jen, don’t worry what other people think. You do YOU. You’ll be happier.”

Yes, I will. Imperfections and all.

Now that I don’t need to be perfect, I’m good.

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44 thoughts on “Free to Be Me

  1. Oh, I so relate to this. I think I have worked my little ol’ self into some major anxiety attacks when I couldn’t make things work out the way they “should” be.

    This is a good reminder that I don’t have to.
    Love this! πŸ’œ

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  2. Your sister was spot on. We worry so much about what others think and believing we have to live up to expectations but really in the end it’s only ourselves we have to be true to. Great post Jenny.

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    • Yes, I know about OCD. I see why you said that, the need for things in order and perfection. I don’t have OCD tendencies, I used to just worry too much about what others thought. I’ve learned over the years I don’t have to do everything perfectly. I do the best I can… and that’s enough! That’s good advice, Bruce… take a deep breath and do what you can. Thank you!

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  3. Great post! When I try to find something positive about living with chronic illness, this is it. We learn to slow down (we have to), and once we have slowed, I believe we begin to see and feel and honor the smallest things, and the biggest things that matter the most. The rest is just fluff. Thank you πŸ™‚

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    • Thanks so much. I need to remind myself of this every once in awhile too. It’s easy to get caught up in doing what we think we “should.” High expectations are sometimes very hard to live up to! πŸ™‚

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    • Thanks so much for your insight and nice comment. You’re right about that, we need to have the freedom to fail. It’s how we learn, grow, and improve. And if we have a constant fear of imperfection, we’ll never try, and never grow.

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  6. Love this post! Striving for perfection is just nonsense! When you know better, you do better. We have to use our lives (I think) as an example to others that it’s normal to fail. We learn and grow as a result — often times coming out with an even better version of what we first envisioned. I failed at a few things today, and I’m good with that. Great post! ❀

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    • Thank you! I love what you said… trying to be perfect is nonsense! And I agree, it’s good to show we fail, we’re not perfect, and I think it’s important to show our kids that. We make mistakes, learn, and move on. Thanks for your insightπŸ˜ŠπŸ’œ

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