A few days ago I read a post by Danny from Dream Big, Dream Often, that I’m still thinking about. It resonated with me and here’s why. Danny talked about his wife leaving things around the house, like tiny rubber bands and shoes. He said he usually reminds her of this, but one day he decided not to. Instead, he thanked God for her.
That day, I had done laundry and was hanging clothes in my husband’s closet. I muttered to myself, as I often do, about how crowded and messy his closet is, no matter how much I try to organize it. I’m constantly telling my husband he needs to go through his clothes and stuff and either get rid of some or donate. Same thing goes for the garage.
But he doesn’t have a problem with his closet or the garage. I do. It’s my issue, not his. He lets me know he has other, more important things to worry about. And I know he’s right.
Don’t get me wrong… just because my husband isn’t concerned with keeping the closets and garage spic and span, he’s rather neat. He loves to keep our home beautiful. But he’s more of a pack rat, and I’m not.
When I read Danny’s post, for some reason I felt relieved. He’s right. I need to let it go. Embrace all that makes my husband, my husband. Even if that means some clutter. I’ve made the decision not to dwell on it anymore. I can’t change him, and I don’t want to. I’m blessed, and I thank God every single day for the life we have together.
It’s not worth it to me to waste time being critical of the little things. Like they say, don’t sweat the small stuff. Life is just too short for that. One of my close friend’s husband died of a heart attack several years ago. I know that she’d give anything to have him back. And she’d take it all, every single bit that made him, him.
We all have some irritating or annoying quirks. But it’s best to be mindful, and focus on the positive. Let go of the stuff that doesn’t really matter. Be grateful and appreciate those we love.
So next time I walk in my husband’s closet, I’ll take a deep breath, smile, and let it go.
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