The past three weeks have gone by in a blur. I’m just starting to get back to “normal.” Honestly, I’m not sure what I’m going to write here. But I know I need to try. For me, writing is therapeutic.
I’ve had some time to process the horrific events that shattered my community of Thousand Oaks, CA — the mass shooting and devastating wildfires. Sometimes it feels like it never could’ve happened, that it was a bad dream.
But it was all too real.
It’s hard to describe how it felt to hear the gut-wrenching news that a shooter killed twelve people at a popular country bar in our tight-knit, safe city. And hours later, to receive a mandatory evacuation order because our home was in “imminent danger” of a fast moving fire.
Each event was tragic enough on its own. But together? Unbelievable.
None of us had time to mourn those murdered at the Borderline Bar & Grill, before we had to pack our cars and rush to leave, worried our homes might burn.
My daughters and I were talking about this the other day, how it seemed like it wasn’t fair that the shooting didn’t get the immediate attention it deserved, because of the fires. Not that anyone could help it… But still.
Now that the smoke has cleared — literally — our community is able to grieve the twelve innocent souls who lost their lives much too soon.
Thousands have visited a beautiful memorial at an intersection near the Borderline bar. A man from another state made twelve white wooden crosses with each victim’s name on them. There are photos, American flags, candles, angel wings, hearts, and so, so many flowers.
People wrote poems, letters, and messages to the victims, like God has 12 new angels, We love you, and You died a hero; and notes to the community, such as T.O. Strong. And, We will get through this TOgether.
My husband and I visited the memorial late one Saturday night. The grandparents of one of the boys killed were there, standing vigil by their grandson’s cross. It was so sad to see the grandmother break down as she read the loving messages and mementos left for her grandson.
Disasters bring people together. It’s heartwarming to see neighbors working to help support those who lost so much. There are memorials, fundraisers, and vigils scheduled throughout December and beyond.
I’m more than grateful that my family and home are both safe. I wasn’t directly affected — well, yes I was, because I live here. I didn’t lose my home or a child in the shooting. But my daughters know kids who were there and lived through that horror. One of my friend’s friend lost her son.
The shooting and fires affected the entire community in some way. It’s hard to push these tragedies aside and move forward. I guess that’s part of healing. It can’t be rushed.
Not a day goes by that I don’t think of the shooting victims and how hard it must be for their families. And of the hundreds of people who lost their homes and the three who died in the fires, unable to escape. It seems especially difficult now that it’s the holiday season.
My heart breaks for all of them. And I know it will for a long, long time. These harrowing events changed our community forever. We will never forget.
Together, we’ll heal. It just takes time.
I’m lucky I don’t live near there, but I hope everyone there makes it through okay. I hope those that passed are in a better place now.
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I hope so too. Thank you for your kind words💖
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Your welcome 🙂 Hope nothing bad happens there any time soon.
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Sometimes there are just no words! Giant hugs and prayers for you and everyone that is dealing with these horrible tragedies. Keep writing, you express yourself well! ❤
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Thank you so much! Your nice comment means a lot. xx
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You are most welcome!
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So incredibly sad. My heart breaks for all those affected. This Christmas will not be the same. May they all find comfort somehow in their precious memories. Hugs to you Jenny. Keep writing xx ❤️
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Thank you Miriam… so much. Hugs back❤️❤️
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So sad xoxoxo
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I know. My heart breaks for them❤️
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I am glad your community is displaying their love and grief on the whole. It’s so important to know people care. I’m sure these events reshape you all. Tired of senseless tragedies, to the point where my words don’t seem to matter. Sending you love and light for healing. ❤
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Thank you so, so much. That’s a great way to say it, that these events reshape us. Very true. I’m tired of senseless tragedies too. This has to stop. One of my college friends was killed in the Vegas mass shooting. Thanks for your nice comment and good thoughts! xx
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I’m glad you and your family are ok. Everytime I wear my Vegas Strong tshirt i think of all the victims and their family and friends and I send my love and prayers to send. I will do the same when think of TO when I th
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Thank you so much! Your love and prayers mean a lot. One of my college friends was killed in the Vegas shooting. So sad, senseless, and tragic. Thanks for reading and your nice comment! Take care, Jenny xx
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Sending you healing, loving thoughts Jenny Marie. For you and your entire community. Andrea xo
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Thank you Andrea, that means so much. Hope you’re doing well, Jenny xx
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🙂 🙂 xoxo
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Really shatters the heart.
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That’s for sure. So so sad.
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I’m so sorry that you had to go through this. Even when events don’t directly affect us in some ways they definitely do in others. It’s good that you are safe but it’s upsetting to think about the fact that some weren’t as fortunate. As a way of encouragement, I wanted to leave a scriptural thought with you. Revelation 21:4 says, “And he will wipe out every year from their eyes. And death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore
The former things have passed away.” ❤
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Thank you, that’s beautiful!❤️
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🤗❤
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Thank you for sharing your experience. Many blessings to all of you for continued healing.
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Thank you so much, I appreciate that! Jenny
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